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Recurring Accusing: Strategies.

These individuals are not able to see or unable to confess that their drinking is adversely affecting their own life and that of others. Usually, this person excuses their drinking by pointing fingers at individuals who are even worse than them as if that makes their drinking less substantial. They likewise might excuse their drinking by blaming others for contributing to their requirement to drink.

When the pressure to stop drinking is higher than the desire to consume, or when one finally feels so poorly about their drinking, one may lastly cease to consume alcohol. An understanding of the alcoholism however does not motivate their cessation. The inspiration has the tendency to be the desire to avoid further criticism or effects, such as the loss of a relationship or job. Thus these persons might quit the beverage, but their thinking about themselves and others goes unchanged. These persons are still apt to job blame onto others, deny their own problems that are contributing to distress and minimize their unfortunate behaviour. An apology for the impact of their drinking and behaviour on others is still out of the concern.

To the spouse or partner of the drinker, their life also continues the same. In view of the continuous blaming, rejection and minimization, the spouse or partner might believe they are somehow the source of their mutual distress. That the drinker has actually ceased drinking might in fact make matters worse in this regard as the alcohol can not not be directly blamed for the relationship problems. The partner or partner may be hoodwinked into believing the nonsense of the drinker.

So the drinking ends, but very little else changes.
Alcohol addiction, while certainly about problematic drinking is also about the thinking and behaviour of the troublesome drinker. Unless the associated thinking and behaviour is dealt with, relationship problems continue and may in fact aggravate. They may worsen due to the fact that the partner is no longer able to blame the drinking directly and the alcoholic may therefore forecast more blame on the behaviour of the partner instead of on himself or herself. These drinkers are apt to be managing of others, straight or indirectly abusive and they are certainly apt to put their needs ahead of others while making everybody else out to be the source of problems.

Treatment for drinkers should include attending to the associated thinking and behaviour. In addition, the partner or spouse is also recommended to look for assistance to comprehend the characteristics of their relationship such that they can hold up against the thinking and behaviour of the drinker, defend themselves, hold the drinker responsible and make decisions now in their own interest instead of the interest of the drinker. These matters can be addressed in couple or marital counselling as long as the counselor is trained in couple or marital counselling and has knowledge and know-how with alcohol addiction and dependencies.

In addition to couple or marital counselling, are programs such as Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-Anon and Alateen. The benefits of these programs are in assisting the drinker comprehend their thinking and behaviour and the effect on others so that they might take duty and make changes. The advantage of Al-Anon and Alateen is to help relative likewise comprehend the thinking and behaviour they have actually undergone and the best ways to handle and cope in view of the thinking and behaviour of the drinker.

So while stopping alcoholism is an initial step, without more treatment and assistance, the issues connected with the thinking and behaviour of the drinker may continue and may intensify.


To make an enduring and favorable distinction, look for aid to attend to the underlying problems of believing and behaviour. This is recommended for the drinker and the partner or partner and other relative.


Usually, this individual excuses their drinking by pointing fingers at persons who are worse than them as if that makes their drinking less substantial. When the pressure to stop drinking is higher than the desire to consume, or when one lastly feels so improperly about their drinking, one might lastly cease to consume alcohol. That the drinker has ceased drinking might really make matters worse in this regard as the alcohol can not no longer be straight blamed for the relationship problems. Alcohol addiction, while definitely about bothersome drinking is likewise about the thinking and behaviour of the troublesome drinker. In addition, the partner or partner is likewise encouraged to look for assistance to understand the characteristics of their relationship such that they can endure the thinking and behaviour of the drinker, stand up for themselves, hold the drinker accountable and make decisions now in their own interest as opposed to the interest of the drinker.

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